It was always a taboo in our family to talk about the passing of my parents’ firstborn, my eldest brother, so I grew up knowing very little about what actually happened. Haiphong, North Vietnam In early 1978, tensions between newly reunified Vietnam and China led to a mass exodus. Around 150,000 ethnic Chinese fled Northern Vietnam for China due to fears of war. In April and May 1978, my family fled to Guangxi, China, to a county called Ningming. At the time, my mother was al